If you've got something to say, please, do us all a favor. Say it.
Say what you mean, mean what you say.
I realize there's a time and place for everything. Okay, I get it. You can't always say what you're thinking. If you're like me, a lot of what you think is just plain rude. There's no need for my callous thoughts to be ejected from my otherwise soft, innocent lips. If I think something will be in good humor, I let it go. But I try not to waste my time with word vomit. There are so many people out there who speak with so much more clarity or with so much more stylistic voice, I don't need to clutter the air with my inane dribble.
But, you know what? If I've got something to say, shouldn't I just say it?
If you are jealous of someone, they deserve to know why you're being super bitch. If someone is irritating you, they deserve to know why you're giving them the cold shoulder. If your friend said something that was out of line, they deserve to know why you are upset with them.
If you love someone, they deserve to hear it.
If you've fallen out of love with someone, they deserve to know why.
Wouldn't it be nice if it was that easy? But, "the pure and simple truth is rarely pure and never simple." Honesty has it's shortcomings.
I know that there is a lot I would say if I wasn't so afraid. Fear of rejection, fear of displaced loyalty, fear of loss, fear of failure, fear of hearing those words said aloud and having them not be reciprocated.
Fear of loneliness.
Fear of truth. Fear of honesty.
It's all about fear, isn't it? I don't care who you think you are, you are afraid. Don't lie to me, and certainly don't lie to yourself. You are afraid of something. You might be afraid of him turning you down, you might be afraid of her not feeling the same way, you might be afraid of getting to close.
Grow a pair.
I regret a lot of things I've left undone, a lot of things left unsaid. I can't think of anything I can say I 100% regret doing or saying (sure, some things hover around 75%, but, whatever...).
I'll go ahead and start by saying this: I don't think I'm going to take my own advice. Let me know if you take my advice and tell me how it works out for you. Maybe I can inspire you and you can inspire me. Everyone could use some inspiration.
I'm not trying to get you to go read my post or anything, but I think my newest post might serve as some inspiration to you. I know it was good for me to write it. It was like a 100 pound weight had been lifted off my shoulders, and I don't feel like I have to put up this mask for anyone ever again.
Bullseye!
What do I want to say? What do I want to say you ask?
YOU ARE AWESOME. Seriously.
Leah, you've god mad writing skills and Xanga is so blessed to have you here.
As for other things I want to say... hmmm, I need to tell my father how much I hate him. I need to tell my mom how much I love her... I need to show my brothers how much I appreciate their support. My friends ~ how much I love them. And of course, my boyfriend ~ that I can't wait to start forever with him. (Uber mushy comment, waddafuck??)
I subbed because of this post. I think for someone who has less than 60 subs, that says a lot... ?
YOU grow a pair!
And what happened for you to post this? I haven't talked to you recently either. T.T
Fine.
You're a fucking nerd.
@purplepixiepoo - thank you! I really appreciate your support! Seriously, it means a lot.
@naguyin - haha, we talked just a few minutes ago! your statement is rendered void! :P
but, it wasn't really any one thing. I have a lot of thoughts in my head that just sort of maelstrom about until some catalyst swoops by and the words fall onto the page. A catalyst happened to wander by like a black cat across my path and this is what volcanized onto the page.
@AilinCorazon - you could at least say something I haven't heard before. Way to be creative, Jon. I mean, seriously... ;)
It already?
I try and live this way - life is too short to waste on holding back and selfishness.
Your clarity is appreciated.
Way to hit the nail on the fracking head!
That's all I have to say... for now.
I keep a lot of things unsaid, maybe I can change that step by step...
Great post!
@omgitsmackie - @nattata - I wanna know. Did you come over here because I recced it? Hehehe
There are some things that could be avoided, or even improved, if people would just say what they mean.
This was a great post. I'm going to be thinking about this for awhile...
I have said whatever has been on my mind and I've lost friendships and even caused a rift in my relationships with some relatives. But you know what? The things I said were the truth. I found out who my friends truly were and that those relatives had a superiority complex. I rather be associated with those who encourage me to be my best instead of making me feel less of a person. I rather be with people who accept my honesty and who I am.
@ladyofthesilk - as you should. good for you for being so honest. definitely true about the friendships, too. sometimes, i keep people around even if i know they'll lie to me and don't really want to hear what I've got to say. such is life.
Really enjoyed your post. There's some good food for thought there.
Interestingly, it doesn't just apply to negative things, but positive things too. A friend of a friend was visiting from Japan and I hadn't seen her in a few years. The two of them swung by my place for about half an hour. After about 15 minutes of chatting to my friend, I looked the other girl right in the eye, smiled, and said "you've become even prettier than the last time I saw you." Then we just resumed talking like normal.
When I was out New Year's Eve 2006 with my ex and 4 other couples (my four lovely female friends and their respective douche bag boyfriends), when we were out to dinner the sweetest little old lady came by her table on her way out of the restaurant and just exclaimed what a pretty and handsome group of young adults we were (we were dressed to the T, for a party later at the Ritz Carlton). We chatted to her for a minute or two, but we'll remember her compliment forever, from the random stranger.
At times it seems like the very young and very old are the only ones bold enough to say it how it is without worrying (or needing to worry) about all those things. Wouldn't it be nice if we could just compliment people on how wonderful they are with their kids, or how sing-song their voice sounds, or how well dressed they are, or how beautiful they are? I've done it, but not very often. I think I'll try a little harder, nowadays we could all use a little extra pick-me-up now and then, even if it's from a random stranger.
1. some righetous christians piss me off
2. i think black people are pretty lucky race wise cause they have their own month, and the next president is black..YOU LUCKY BASTARDS
3. i'm not afraid of any race..so i will tell the flaws of all race..including my own..yah fuck you filipinos..ahahaha
4. i say what i think, and i don't feel guilty doing so..cause whatever i feel just feels so damn right
5. person who wrote this blog...I LIKE IT!
yay!
like i said before...great writer!
Actually I tend to say things and regret it later. Open mouth insert foot. I can't help but say exactly what's on my mind. lol... it gets me into trouble sometimes. It's a blessing and a curse!
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I'm not trying to get you to go read my post or anything, but I think my newest post might serve as some inspiration to you. I know it was good for me to write it. It was like a 100 pound weight had been lifted off my shoulders, and I don't feel like I have to put up this mask for anyone ever again.
YOU grow a pair!
And what happened for you to post this? I haven't talked to you recently either. T.T
Fine.
You're a fucking nerd.
@purplepixiepoo - thank you! I really appreciate your support! Seriously, it means a lot.
@naguyin - haha, we talked just a few minutes ago! your statement is rendered void! :P
but, it wasn't really any one thing. I have a lot of thoughts in my head that just sort of maelstrom about until some catalyst swoops by and the words fall onto the page. A catalyst happened to wander by like a black cat across my path and this is what volcanized onto the page.
@AilinCorazon - you could at least say something I haven't heard before. Way to be creative, Jon. I mean, seriously... ;)
It already?
I try and live this way - life is too short to waste on holding back and selfishness.
Your clarity is appreciated.
Way to hit the nail on the fracking head!
That's all I have to say... for now.
I keep a lot of things unsaid, maybe I can change that step by step...
Great post!
@omgitsmackie - @nattata - I wanna know. Did you come over here because I recced it? Hehehe
@purplepixiepoo - Haha, yep. Great recommendation!
@purplepixiepoo - Totally. And I agree with nattata, great rec. =]
@nattata - Awww I'm so flattered! I never rec anything and it feels good that there are some who check out my recs. :) Yipeee!!
@omgitsmackie - Thanks you Mackenzie! How sweet of you. :) Woot. Go add this person. She's a truly awesome writer..
@TastyAnonymity - haha, cute.
@purplepixiepoo - you're awesome, btw. :)
Well said.
There are some things that could be avoided, or even improved, if people would just say what they mean.
This was a great post. I'm going to be thinking about this for awhile...
I have said whatever has been on my mind and I've lost friendships and even caused a rift in my relationships with some relatives. But you know what? The things I said were the truth. I found out who my friends truly were and that those relatives had a superiority complex. I rather be associated with those who encourage me to be my best instead of making me feel less of a person. I rather be with people who accept my honesty and who I am.
@ladyofthesilk - as you should. good for you for being so honest. definitely true about the friendships, too. sometimes, i keep people around even if i know they'll lie to me and don't really want to hear what I've got to say. such is life.
Really enjoyed your post. There's some good food for thought there.
Interestingly, it doesn't just apply to negative things, but positive things too. A friend of a friend was visiting from Japan and I hadn't seen her in a few years. The two of them swung by my place for about half an hour. After about 15 minutes of chatting to my friend, I looked the other girl right in the eye, smiled, and said "you've become even prettier than the last time I saw you." Then we just resumed talking like normal.
When I was out New Year's Eve 2006 with my ex and 4 other couples (my four lovely female friends and their respective douche bag boyfriends), when we were out to dinner the sweetest little old lady came by her table on her way out of the restaurant and just exclaimed what a pretty and handsome group of young adults we were (we were dressed to the T, for a party later at the Ritz Carlton). We chatted to her for a minute or two, but we'll remember her compliment forever, from the random stranger.
At times it seems like the very young and very old are the only ones bold enough to say it how it is without worrying (or needing to worry) about all those things. Wouldn't it be nice if we could just compliment people on how wonderful they are with their kids, or how sing-song their voice sounds, or how well dressed they are, or how beautiful they are? I've done it, but not very often. I think I'll try a little harder, nowadays we could all use a little extra pick-me-up now and then, even if it's from a random stranger.
1. some righetous christians piss me off
2. i think black people are pretty lucky race wise cause they have their own month, and the next president is black..YOU LUCKY BASTARDS
3. i'm not afraid of any race..so i will tell the flaws of all race..including my own..yah fuck you filipinos..ahahaha
4. i say what i think, and i don't feel guilty doing so..cause whatever i feel just feels so damn right
5. person who wrote this blog...I LIKE IT!
Actually I tend to say things and regret it later. Open mouth insert foot. I can't help but say exactly what's on my mind. lol... it gets me into trouble sometimes. It's a blessing and a curse!